Ironic to read this. I am deeply devoted to Christ. Married almost 30 years. With my pastor’s approval and that of those who love me I HAVE FILED FOR DIVORCE ON GROUNDS OF DRINKING. I so wanted us to make it but his verbal and emotional abuse have put me into a dark which has drained my spirit. Will God intervene quick enough ??
Good luck and good bless. After 20
Years of abuse and neglect I found the courage to realize it was not me but him! Now on my own woth four beautiful children. Look to the light and find comfort in The Lord!
Dorothy – you are the most important person – it’s not about “Walmart Psyhology” but about a sense of dignity. Don’t give too much – such people are always abused – it’s male nature that they appreciate only these things which come hard to them and which are acquired in struggle.
I have two Indian friends – one is superficially cold and bitchy, aware of selfworth and focused on mutual happiness – mutual – not complete blind unconditional giving. And guess what – she ended up married with a great guy who loves not just her but is wonderful towards her entire family.
I also have another friend, who always had given too much too soon, cause her heart is loving deeply, madly and truly…she ended up abused, cheated and heartbroken.
Don’t beat yourself upon not fulfilling an ideal Chrtistian picture of unconditional Love – first it has to be given to you by your husband. Man acts, woman responds. Not vice versa.
So he did not act right – you opt out. You try therapy and separation for some time – ok, but if it doesn’t help – I will cite you Christ himself “Who will throw a stone on her?”
Aga, that is SUCH bad counsel.
You’ve been married 30 years and you are committed to God, but God does not say it’s okay to divorce because your husband challenges your marriage or drains you.
You just have to pray more and help him stop drinking.
God did not say life on earth would be your final destination. He didn’t say earth would be your heaven.
He will get you through this and test you for a reason……all you can do is have faith in Him and try harder. For better or worse you vowed….this is the “worse”. Better will be next.
Your husband needs you. You were made to be his partner. His helper. So help him out of his drinking and bad decision making. I know it hurts.
My husband was a very hateful and angry man an I had to endure abuse in many ways….but I didn’t give up, even when I wanted to sooo bad. And now we are both happy and more Iove then ever…and more importantly, both devoted to God. But because I didn’t give up on my husband and I as his helper lead him to God
Don’t give up. Help him out of his darkness so you both can live in the light.
I’m really sorry about your divorce. I’m actually going thru a rough patch that on’y GOD can heal. I wish you well and I can only tell you to PUSH! Pray Until Something Happens.
Ironic to read this. I am deeply devoted to Christ. Married almost 30 years. With my pastor’s approval and that of those who love me I HAVE FILED FOR DIVORCE ON GROUNDS OF DRINKING. I so wanted us to make it but his verbal and emotional abuse have put me into a dark which has drained my spirit. Will God intervene quick enough ??
Good luck and good bless. After 20
Years of abuse and neglect I found the courage to realize it was not me but him! Now on my own woth four beautiful children. Look to the light and find comfort in The Lord!
Dorothy – you are the most important person – it’s not about “Walmart Psyhology” but about a sense of dignity. Don’t give too much – such people are always abused – it’s male nature that they appreciate only these things which come hard to them and which are acquired in struggle.
I have two Indian friends – one is superficially cold and bitchy, aware of selfworth and focused on mutual happiness – mutual – not complete blind unconditional giving. And guess what – she ended up married with a great guy who loves not just her but is wonderful towards her entire family.
I also have another friend, who always had given too much too soon, cause her heart is loving deeply, madly and truly…she ended up abused, cheated and heartbroken.
Don’t beat yourself upon not fulfilling an ideal Chrtistian picture of unconditional Love – first it has to be given to you by your husband. Man acts, woman responds. Not vice versa.
So he did not act right – you opt out. You try therapy and separation for some time – ok, but if it doesn’t help – I will cite you Christ himself “Who will throw a stone on her?”
Aga, that is SUCH bad counsel.
You’ve been married 30 years and you are committed to God, but God does not say it’s okay to divorce because your husband challenges your marriage or drains you.
You just have to pray more and help him stop drinking.
God did not say life on earth would be your final destination. He didn’t say earth would be your heaven.
He will get you through this and test you for a reason……all you can do is have faith in Him and try harder. For better or worse you vowed….this is the “worse”. Better will be next.
Your husband needs you. You were made to be his partner. His helper. So help him out of his drinking and bad decision making. I know it hurts.
My husband was a very hateful and angry man an I had to endure abuse in many ways….but I didn’t give up, even when I wanted to sooo bad. And now we are both happy and more Iove then ever…and more importantly, both devoted to God. But because I didn’t give up on my husband and I as his helper lead him to God
Don’t give up. Help him out of his darkness so you both can live in the light.
I’m really sorry about your divorce. I’m actually going thru a rough patch that on’y GOD can heal. I wish you well and I can only tell you to PUSH! Pray Until Something Happens.